CHAPTER 27
Persons with this kind of personality disorder like what Aliyah have finds trouble regting their
emotions effectively. They may experience splitting. Splitting is a term that refers to seeing things as all
good or all bad. Frequently sees things in ck and white terms, which means things and people are
seen as either all good or all bad. They don’t believe good people can be bad sometimes or can make
mistakes, which can lead to bing consumed with anger toward people. For them, things,
experiences, and people were either all bad or all good, totally wonderful or totally worthless,
Splitting is considered a coping mechanism that helps a person like Aliyah avoid getting hurt. It allows
them to discard things and people they have decided are all bad. A defense mechanismmonly
developed by people who have experience early life traumas, such as abandonment.
Aliyah developed this kind of personality disorder during her childhood when her parents got divorced
and abandoned her; leave her in the care of her grandparents.
But her grandparents suddenly died in a ne crash.
Because of that Aliyah felt alone and abandoned again.
After her grandparents died her father took her again but just to leave her in his father’s cousin’s house.
When Aliyah was left by her father on that house she felt abandon again.
In that house her experiences are all bad. In her younger age she receives bad treatment from her
rtives who are living on that house. She experience rejections and cruel treatment from individuals
around her.
Such early life traumas, cruel treatment, rejections and abandonment she receives multiple times leads
Aliyah to develop such kind of defense mechanism to cope up and to avoid the feeling of getting hurt
emotionally.
And such defense mechanism slowly result into personality disorder.
As a result her personality shifts or split into two, which made her behaves into two opposite attitudes.
Person living with this condition is seen as really good or really bad.
Aliyah sees this two side of her personality as two different persons dictating her on what she will do
depends on what current situation she’s dealing with.
And this two sides of her always colliding that made Aliyah confused on what she will do.
Then reality is the middle ground, meaning she can decide what she will do if she will back into reality.
Middle ground is a position between two opposite opinions in an argument or between two
descriptions.
Reality is the state of things as they are, rather than as they may appear or might be imagined.
But of course the causes of these things is unknown to her this present time because Aliyah still didn’t
regain her memory.
Aliyah is Haya.
She is Haya who only forgets her real identity because of a tragic ident.
What Aliyah done to Atif at present, ending their friendship is just a history that repeats itself?
Yes and it was long time ago when Atif is too young.
How did it happened?
The little boy and the girl who nearly a teenager who always appear in Aliyah’s dream almost every
night is herself; her forgotten real identity whose real name is Haya; and the little boy is Atif.
Atif mother died when he is a little boy.
Because no one will take care of him he wanders in the city streets as a beggar.
One day Haya found Atif wandering on the city street.
Atif was abandoned by his mother’s friend when his mother died.
His mother’s friend thought that he is good for nothing and just a burden so she cast away Atif out of
their house, leaving him homeless.
Haya gave him food.
They became friends.
Haya always visited Atif on the ce where he wanders.
Atif always wait Haya outside of one of the fast food in the city.
Until one day Atif get sick because no one take care of him. He just sheltering himself at the footbridge
when the night came. And wandering on the city street during day time.
Haya decided to bring Atif up where he belong.
Haya save Atif from being a beggar.
Haya bring Atif to Haris.
Haris is the best friend of the real father of Atif;
Haris is looking for Atif for a long time to fulfill his promise to his best friend Alem, the father of Atif.
Haris promise to Alem that he will find Alem’s son and give all the possession that Alem have.
Alem is an orphan billionaire who died in brain cancer at his early age and no other heir of his
possession aside from his long lost son Atif. Alem died without seeing his son Atif so Haris as his best
friend continue to search his son.
Haris thanks Haya when she found Atif and bring him to his house.
Haya is a daughter of Gil who is the son of Haris former employees.
Haya knew Haris because of his father.
Haya knew the father of Atif because Atif’s mother Am told Haya who is the real father of Atif before
Am died.
Am is the mother of Atif.
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Am died in a lung cancer and left Atif in his young age.
Haya knew Am because Am is their former housemaid.
Before Am died she got a chance to asked help from Haya to look after his son when they
identally met again on the city.
So Haya did what Am asked for her.
Haya took care of his son.
But there was a situation that made Haya decide to bring Atif to where he really belong.
So Haya left Atif in the care of Haris when he is a little boy.
Then Haya suddenly ends their friendship andmunication because she was afraid that time will
Haya thought that Atif will soon became a billionaire because he will inherit all the possession of his
father Alem.
Atif is not a beggar anymore.
And he will had a family if Haris adopt him as a real grandson.
Sooner orter he will have many friends.
Haya was afraid that if that would happen Atif will forget her, rejected her, end their friendship, and
totally abandoned her.
Haya don’t want to get hurt anymore so before it happened she ends their friendship.
Haya had trauma because she was abandoned by her parents when she was a small child.
When her parents got divorced and have their own family, Haya was rejected.
Because both of her parents new fiancée don’t like Haya to be around their house or to belong to their
family.
From that experience Haya learn to distant herself to someone whom she get emotionally attached by
ending themunication if she felt that those individuals will abandon her sooner.
She learn to discard those individuals from her life to avoid getting hurt.
As a result, she never go back to Haris house to visit Atif, not even once.
Years pass by they both grew up; Haya as a teenager and Atif as nearly teenager.
They never talked to each other.
Atif tried many times to visit Haya in her cousin’s house where she living but Haya avoid him.
She refused to talk to him.
Until one day Haya leave her country for a vacation together with his father that wants to give her a
birthday treat. Unfortunately the passenger ship that Haya boarded met a tragic ident.
Atif never got a chance to talk to her again because Haya was missing and never found.
Many years passed by Atif grew up as a young man.
Then Atif learn how to use the social media.
Unknowingly Atif meet Haya again in social media as Aliyah.
And then the history repeat itself.
Haya and Atif became friends.
In the end Haya gave up again and end their friendship.
How many times they will meet and leave each other?
How many times Atif will experience the same pain of losing Haya as a friend?
This time Atif was given the chance again to talk to Haya because he make a fake ount just to chat
Aliyah.
And maybe be this time it will be more than just friends.
Will Atif let her go again if she wants to leave him again?
Or find courage no to let her go again?