Chapter 1241 1243 [Frustration Education]


    Xiang Nan then called Xia Junshan and asked him to go out for a drink together.


    At this time, Xia Junshan already knew about the conflict between his daughter and Mi Tao, and he didn''t know what to do.


    ?After hearing Xiang Nan''s invitation, he immediately agreed.


    The two immediately made an appointment to meet at a bar.


    “Junior brother, what’s going on with Huanhuan and Mi Tao?” Xia Junshan asked in confusion.


    Xiang Nan immediately told Huanhuan how he had created a small circle to isolate Mi Tao and sent a "letter to parents" to deliberately deny it to Mi Tao.


    Xia Junshan was embarrassed after hearing this.


    "Is this...is this...something Huanhuan did?" He couldn''t believe it.


    In his opinion, his daughter is as cute as an angel. But now the angel has turned into a demon, and he actually creates a small circle to bully the classmates collectively. It is simply too abominable.


    “Brother, children are also very complicated.” Xiang Nan nodded.


    In fact, compared to adults, children tend to behave more cruelly than adults due to the lack of moral and social rules.


    ?For example, school bullying often forces people to kneel down, take off their clothes, and slap them. This kind of extreme violence is rarely seen in society.


    “How could this happen? I can’t believe it.” Xia Junshan sighed.


    His daughter turned out to be so bad, which really surprised him.


    "Brother, water has a source and trees have roots. Huanhuan and Mi Tao were good friends before, but now their relationship has become so bad. There must be a reason." Xiang Nan said, "Could it be when you were teaching her , always compares Mi Tao with her, so Huanhuan feels resentful and hates Wu Jiwu? "


    In the play, Huanhuan hates Mi Tao because of this reason.


    Xia Junshan was stunned when he heard this. He remembered that Nan Li always used Mi Tao as an example when instructing Huan Huan on her homework and asked her daughter to learn from her.


    ?Perhaps it was this that made her daughter feel resentful towards Mi Tao.


    "Just be a role model, that''s not all, right?" Xia Junshan said with a smile, "When we were in school, teachers and parents used other people''s children to inspire us. After we listened, we could only learn from others. Son, I didn’t say that I would form a small circle to isolate others.”


    Who never compared himself with other people’s children when he was in school?


    “Brother, with all due respect, we can do it, but Huanhuan can’t.” Xiang Nan waved his hands and said, “You and your sister-in-law have been insisting on happy education these years, but you only focus on making your children happy, but you have forgotten to teach your children about frustration.


    ??Life is often unsatisfactory, and setbacks are the main theme of life. But these years, Huanhuan has been too smooth. Even if you don''t study hard, you can be ranked in the middle or upper reaches. In the election of class cadres, he is always the deputy squad leader. I often participate in various literary competitions in the city and can easily win a prize...


    Compared to other children, Huanhuan is really happy, but the more so, the harder it is to bear when she encounters setbacks. For example, after she lost the class president election in the first half of the year, she felt lost for several days.


    So when we are compared with other people’s children, we may feel dissatisfied and aroused our competitiveness. When Huanhuan compares himself with other people''s children, his reaction may be more intense, and what is aroused is not competitiveness, but jealousy and resentment. "


    Although Xia Junshan was a little unhappy when Xiang Nan said this about his child, he had to admit that his words made sense.


    ?Over the years, they have loved Huanhuan too much.


    Father, mother, grandpa, grandma, younger brother, school teachers, colleagues at work...all of them praised the child for being smart, beautiful and cute, and almost spoiled her like a little princess.


    It can be said that Huanhuan has been soaked in honeypots for so many years. Because of this, her endurance is particularly fragile.


    I will cry if I am ranked last in the exam, I will cry if I fail to be elected as the deputy squad leader, I will cry if I fail to get into the competition class, I will cry if I do not study seriously and I will be punished... I have become a crying bag.


    "What should we do?" Xia Junshan asked quickly. “First of all, of course, we must sincerely admit our mistakes and apologize.” Xiang Nan said, “Secondly, we must pay attention to the child’s frustration education and improve her ability to withstand stress.


    Senior brother, Huanhuan is only in fifth grade now, and there are still at least eleven years before she graduates from college and becomes an adult. During this period, she also had to go through two major life difficulties: the high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination. If her ability to withstand stress is still as bad as it is now, I''m afraid it will be difficult for her to overcome these two difficulties. "


    The learning pressure in middle schools is dozens or hundreds of times that of primary schools. The number of courses to be studied has been increased from three to nine. If the ability to withstand stress is not strong, junior high school will be completely unable to keep up.


    When Xiang Nan was in school, junior high school had the highest dropout rate.


    When I was in the first grade of junior high school, there were a total of six classes, with more than 60 people in each class, and they were packed to the brim. By the time I reached the third grade of junior high school, the number had been reduced to four classes, with only more than forty students in each class, more than half the number.


    Xia Junshan listened and nodded.


    …


    ?At the same time, Zhang Xueer also drove to Mi Tao''s house.


    I saw Mi Tao being scolded by her parents.


    "You can''t stand it anymore. Your parents took you to the city so easily. If you don''t study hard, how can you still fight with Huanhuan?" Mitao''s father scolded.


    "She bullied me first." Mi Tao said, "I just made my attitude clear, otherwise everyone would bully me."


    "Then why doesn''t she bully others? It''s your fault." said Midao''s father.


    "It''s not my fault for being bullied, it''s her fault for bullying me." Mi Tao said immediately after hearing this.


    "You are still stubborn. Your parents are frugal and save money to support your studies. You don''t study hard and fight with your classmates. How can you still be reasonable?" Mi Tao''s father said angrily, "Can''t you know something?"


    "Why do you always ask me to be sensible? It''s her fault that she bullied me." Mi Tao cried, "She led her classmates to isolate me, took the lead in class and was undisciplined, and handed out homework deliberately without giving it to me... She is the one who did the wrong thing. , Why do you want me to endure it?”


    "You still said, you still said..." Mi Tao''s father raised his hand and said fiercely.


    ?Zhang Xueer saw this and quickly knocked on the door.


    “Hey, it’s Teacher Zhang~” Seeing this, Mi Tao’s mother quickly pulled her husband’s hand down, then walked over and opened the door, “Hello, Teacher Zhang~”


    “Teacher Zhang, you’re here~” Mi Tao’s father also said a little embarrassed.


    “Yes, I’m here to see Mi Tao and tell you what happened this afternoon.” Zhang Xueer nodded and then told the story of the cause and effect.


    “Hey, it turns out it’s just the kids who are having trouble. It’s okay. It’ll be fine in a while.” After hearing this, Mi Tao’s parents didn’t take it seriously.


    After all, in rural areas, it is common for children to fight.


    "Dad Mi Tao, this matter is more serious than you think. What Huanhuan did to Mi Tao can be regarded as school violence. We cannot take it lightly, let alone tolerate it blindly." Zhang Xueer waved her hand and said, " Mi Tao did nothing wrong in this matter. The biggest mistake was that she should not have recommended Xia Huanhuan. At that time, Mi Tao should have told the teacher what Huanhuan had done and let the teacher help her.


    ?But she can stand up bravely and express her opinions clearly. This is very encouraging. As you know, many children are afraid to speak up after being bullied, so they are bullied more and more. "


    ?A lot of school violence is gradual, from verbal violence to physical violence, and even ends up causing death, so we have to guard against it.


    “Teacher Zhong encouraged me to stand up and express my attitude if I was bullied.” Mi Tao nodded.


    “You did the right thing.” Zhang Xueer nodded.


    (End of this chapter)